How to Know He’s the One to Marry

"A good marriage would be between a blind wife and a deaf husband."                    - Michel de Montaigne

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very day, ladies are faced with the difficult decision of choosing who’s right for them to marry. Not only are real men scarce in the marital market, but when you finally manage to scramble one out of the bachelorhood battlefield, how do you know he’s the ONE for you? A man may be right for marriage but not right for you.

Same goes for the women folk as well.

So, how do you know he’s the ONE? How do you make certain your choice is not misguided?

Don’t fret, dear one. Here are 10 easy ways to know he’s the ONE. And to put things in perspective, he doesn’t have to ace all 10. But 7 is a good number. Remember, no man (or woman) is perfect. You can only get an approximation. Live with that, and build a happy and prosperous life together.

 "Let the wife make the husband glad to come home, and let him make her sorry to see him leave."     - Martin Luther

Here are the top 10 things to know he’s the RIGHT ONE for you:

1.      He loves you for who you are and supports your dream. He accepts your flaws and helps you get better, without condemning you. He is interested in your interests and supports you morally, physically, emotionally/psychologically, spiritually, socially, intellectually, financially, intimately, career wise and aesthetically. He’s your pillar of strength and holds you in high esteem. 

2.      He disapproves of your misbehavior but forgives when you’re repentant. He doesn’t over pamper you, but tells you to your face when you go wrong; he does it with care and understanding, and with the intention of wanting you to improve and be better. 

3.      He shares his best times with you and lets you in on his dream. He always saves the best for you. He tells you his dream and factors you in it. He’s happiest when he’s around you and feels he could tell you any and everything.

4.      He longs to meet your family. He’s excited about the prospect of meeting your family. He’s open to their way of life and wants to be part of your extended world. 

5.      He doesn’t judge your past but rather helps you step into the future. Even when he knows your past may not be too descent, he doesn’t judge you anyway, but accepts the fact you’ve changed and you love him completely. He takes your hand from behind and walks forward with you into the future with love and respect.

6.      He understands he’s not perfect and therefore needs to improve. He takes your observations and complaints about himself seriously and makes positive effort to get better. He doesn’t try to run away from his responsibilities, but faces them courageously. He respects your opinion even when he disagrees. 

7.      He shares with you how he imagines his kids would take after you. He fantasizes about the prospect of his kids taking after your looks and his. He dreams of a family in both your images. He imagines a likeness of you and is proud of the possibility of having little “Yous” all over the place!

8.      He plans his future around both of you and doesn’t lie to you. He includes you in all his future plans. He doesn’t trick you into believing you’ll share in his world. He understands the future won’t be about him alone but about the both of you. He makes sacrifices on your behalf and is proud to do it without regrets.

9.      He’s like a child reborn when he’s around you. You make his joy complete. You’re his breath of fresh air. You’re his centre circle. He forgets all pride and manly ego and opens up himself to you. He trusts you as a child trusts his mother.

10.  He may want sex from you, but is willing to wait if that’s what you want. His romantic and sexual feelings toward you are guided by the respect he has for your person, and he honours your wishes in the matter. 

Most importantly, he fears God and wants to do right by all men not necessarily because he’s a saint, but because you make him want to be a better man. He wants to be a King because he knows you’re a deserving Queen. And when he’s not around you, he cannot wait to be with you. 

When you find a man like this, KEEP HIM; he’ll come good when it matters. Though he may be imperfect, but aren’t we all?

Stay blessed. Find love. Love and let love.