10 Keys to an Amazing and Successful Romantic Relationship

“And in her smile I see something more beautiful than the stars.”

-          Across the Universe by Beth Revis

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ery often you find yourself in a romantic relationship with that special someone and then wonder how and what you need to do to spice up the flavour and drum up the beat? Truth is: everyone can have an amazing and successful romantic relationship with that special someone if they tried to do the little things well and with more love, tenderness and care. We often think it is the expensive dinners at Sheraton or Eko Hotels, the holiday vacation at Obudu Cattle Ranch or a romantic trip for two to Dubai that speaks “True Love”, but it is the little things you do or fail to do that tells your partner in no equivocal terms, how much you love them and truly care for them. 

Therefore, to you help you build successful romantic relationship with that special someone in your life, here are my 10 keys to an amazingly successful romantic relationship with your partner.

1.      Earn your partner’s trust

Nothing can ruin a relationship quicker than when your partner does not and cannot trust you. It’s almost like doomsday already programmed to happen. To enjoy an amazing and successful relationship with your partner, first start by earning their trust. Then you can begin to hope that the seeds of love and affection would find a fertile ground in their hearts to germinate. You can earn their trust by avoiding complications in your relationship that triggers their suspicion and insecurities.

 

Lovers Sharing Affection

2.      Show affection

Don’t be too serious all the time. Learn to take things easy and show your partner you truly love them and always have them in your mind. Whisper love words in their ears, steal some kiss from their lips, give gentle tender bite of their earlobes or the back of the neck, touch their thighs gently while sitting next to each other, hold hands as you both take a walk, rest their head on your shoulder while seeing a movie, etc. Just do those little things that show them you love them, for they have the capacity to put smiles on their faces and rekindle love’s passion in their hearts.   

3.      Regularly Plan special treats and getaways

No matter how big or small, elaborate or simple, expensive or affordable, always ensure you find time and the occasion to give your partner a special treat just to show them how much you love them. It could a be gift you bought at the gift store down the road or a special candle-lit dinner on a particular evening; whatever it is, just go out of your way to do it. Special treats and surprise gifts have a way of replenishing the awe and fondness of your partner toward you, which can only help to enhance how they feel around and about you.

 

Couple Appreciating Each other

4.      Appreciate your partner

Sometimes, you get too choked up and carried away in your daily affairs that you forget to show appreciation for the little things your partner does on daily basis to make you happy. From the food they cook, to the phone calls, the SMS, the support, the listening ear, the jokes and the gifts, show them you appreciate them and make them see it. Leave a note, saying, “Thank you for being my love and for being there for me, always,” and stuffs like that. You never know how much you would make them feel loved by that singular gesture.  

5.      Tell them how much you love them always

Love can be lost in words and words can be lost in love. But never fail to show and tell your partner just how much you truly love them. The words “I love you,” may have been bastardized by lovers today, but to many, it still retains its flavour and still means a lot to hear you say those three magical words to them. Words like, “You mean so much to me, my love,” can have such a loving ripple effect on your partner that it rekindles the fire in your relationship again and again and again. Say the words, and watch it blossom and inspire more intimacy, passion and romance. 

6.      Show them how much you miss them when they are not around

Often times work or other situations can take your partner away from you or you from your partner. When this happens, never miss the opportunity to tell and show them how much you have missed them. When they are away, send them loving messages and poems (if poetry is your thing), or call them and tell them how much you miss them. When the two of you are back together, do something wonderful for them just to show how much you’ve missed them. Creating special alone time where you both catch up on lost time can be really refreshing.    

 

Couple Sharing With Each Other

7.      Share yourself with your partner

One of the key ways you show your partner that you truly love them is to allow your partner into your life (not as if you haven’t let them in already; but letting them meet the real you). We all have a part of us that we would rather keep to ourselves, but letting your partner in on your pains and gains, joys and sorrows, difficulties and opportunities, successes and failures, frustration and excitement, can be very refreshing and heartwarming. And when your partner knows that you trust them enough to share, they will love you more for it to care and help you go through it as a couple rather than alone like a wandering ranger.

8.      Practice physical and spiritual exercises together

Never joke with the power of shared activities with your partner. Having physical workouts together promotes body contacts and encourages cooperation which engenders intimacy and bonding. It also ensures you share in the physical and emotional release together. In addition, engaging in spiritual activities together such as praying and meditating together can inspire a strong kind of shared spirituality that promotes intimacy, commitment and even passion (in the case of meditation). This can be a fantastic way of building a timeless bond that breaks every yoke.   

9.      Avoid taking your partner’s faults too seriously

When you decide to enter a relationship with that special someone, also be ready to accept their limitations and failings as no one person comes the complete package. And just as they have their weaknesses and insecurities, so also do you have yours. So don’t take their faults too personally, forgive and forget, and learns to overlook so many things. For as much as you try to cope with her shortcomings, she also is probably doing same with you (and sometimes much more than she would be willing to reveal).

 

Couple Supporting Each other

10.  Support your partner and be there when they need you

Always be there whenever your partner needs you. Be there for them both physically and emotionally. Even if you cannot solve their problems 100%, the perception that you care enough and supported them with what you have (even if it’s only the proverbial shoulder to rest on) can really go a long way in making them feel very much loved and cared for. This can be a very good feeling indeed. 

There you have it. If you’ve enjoyed this article, kindly share with your friends on Facebook and Twitter to help you spice up your relationship and rave up the sweet music and musings of true love in your life. 

You may also mail me at chidielebenedict@gmail.com or call +2348137337618 and share your  relationship issues with me. I'd be glad to have you.

Enjoy and be happy!