How To Build Successful Relationship With Your Partner

“People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges.”

                                                         - Joseph F. Newton Men

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uilding successful relationship is not a day’s activity but a life-long process. It’s not something you do in fits and starts, but something you do daily, and with the right attitude. Building successful relationships are the foundations to healthy bodies, sound minds, and gracious and fulfilled spirit. Successful relationships bring about wellbeing of our souls and harmony of our hearts. They are the foundations of true happiness, joy and peace in the world.

Therefore, understanding how to build successful relationships is one of the most important tasks you will undertake in this world – a task that has the unrivalled potential to grant you happiness, peace and both physical and psychological wellbeing.

To help you achieve success in your relationships and love life, here are seven (7) successful relationship building tips you need to know and practice. They will be tremendous for your relationship with your partner and much more.

1.      Pray together. Nothing is as powerful as a praying couple, who offer their supplications as one. For the Holy Book said, “where two or three (in the case of childless couples, two) are gathered in my name, there I am with them.” This is a powerful tool couples can use to solidify their bond spiritually in order to build relationship success.

2.      Meditate together. Voicing out words of grievances as well as words of love and adoration aren’t enough, you and your partner must also learn to listen to both your heart and soul together. Tap into your inner energies by exploring the power of silence. This is a very powerful successful relationship building tool. For out of the quiet of our hearts often come great revelations. In addition, when our hearts learn to solemnize together, it helps us maintain harmony in times of quarrels, challenges, hardship and external pressures to disintegrate. It could be in your house or an open private space. Whichever environment you choose, meditate together and watch your hearts commune together towards a lasting, successful relationship.

3.      Communicate better. No relationship can succeed without better communication. And better communication is not only about talking. It is also about listening as well. There will be times to stand up and talk. There will also be times when you just have to sit down and listen. The art of better communication is the art of listening. Successful relationships are those where the partners have learned to listen to each other. Understanding comes from listening – so too is wisdom.  To build successful relationships, listen more than you speak, speak less than you listen. But do this with mutual respect and empathy. And most importantly, allow feedbacks when you communicate. It makes you gauge and know whether the other person understands you or not. This is important to enable you always review your communication pattern and your relationship’s communication process.  

4.      Play together. Playing together builds successful relationships. Often times partners fail to realize this very powerful secret of successful relationships. Neglecting play in your relationship invites distractions from others and disharmony. Whatever games both of you can come up with, it is vital you make the most use of it as play has the great capacity to open up minds and hearts, and is a great instrument of harmony, happiness and innocence.  Haven’t you wondered why children are made to play more than anything else? It’s because play builds the human spirit. It engenders communication, connection, cooperation, companionship, compassion, courage and communion (the Seven Big Cs of Harmonious Relationship – watch out for this write-up soon). Even animals understand this Natural Secret. Take a look at little puppies and lion cubs and you get the idea. Even sex and sexual receptivity is greatest when foreplay is best utilized. Play keeps your hearts young and gives you something to always laugh about to spark your lives together. It is one of the foundational secrets of successful relationships. And when you and your partner have lost the time, the will and the heart to play, then watch it – your relationship is already endangered. 

5.      Live for the other. Building successful relationships is not about living for yourself alone. It’s about living for the other person. It’s about mutual sacrifice and dedication. It’s about loyalty and duty to one another. Selfishness only ruins relationships. Selflessness builds successful relationships. Give more than you receive from your partner, and you’ll receive more than you give. That’s how interesting true love can be. Building successful relationships is about commitment – living and leading for the other. If you are incapable of living your life for your partner, then you are not ready to build a successful relationship. As the Bible rightly pointed out, “what greater love can a man have than to lay down his life for his friends.” In a relationship, “for your friend”, “…for this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one.” Emphasis here is on ONE, not two.  

6.      Trust each other. Trust is another very powerful founding stone of successful relationships. It is a foundation that keeps our unions solid. It has been with us right from our earliest days as infants. As the great Psychologist Erik Eriksen noted in his Psychosocial Theory of Human Development, the very first stage of the human development is the stage of Trust vs. Mistrust. We are started out in life with the challenge of building Trust, as this is foundational to whatever we are going to become as humans, as we progress in this very difficult and unpredictable world. For this reason, Trust is a basic requirement. And since you are building a new chapter of your life (as you were when you first started out as an infant trusting your parents for security), as an adult, you equally need this trust as you build another chapter of your life with this new person. When you allow mistrust and distrust to set in, then it becomes absolutely difficult – almost impossible even – to build a successful relationship.

7.      Forgive, forgive, forgive. Without forgiveness, every relationship is doomed to fail, and every life is subject to ruin. We are nothing without forgiveness. And where forgiveness is out the door, hate and vengeance reigns supreme. If we must build successful relationships, we must learn to forgive, and try so hard to forget (even though this can prove extremely difficult). Always remember, a heart incapable of forgiving is a heart incapable of loving. This much have our Heavenly Father shown us through Jesus. And so we are taught to pray, “…forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us….” Learn to forgive and you’d have learned to love, “for to err is human, to forgive divine.” So, if you must build a successful relationship, forgive all wrongs. It doesn’t mean you are weak, it means you are strong; for true love and peace only survives where forgiveness is allowed to heal ALL wounds. 

Hope you learned a lot! If you have any contribution or question, feel free to drop your reply in the comments section below. You may also call me on 08137337618 or mail me at chidielebenedict@gmail.com and I’d gladly answer all your enquiries.

Stay happy and blessed as we build successful relationships to make the world a better place!